Is it sad that I would rather stay home and clean my house instead of going out with friends? Is something wrong with me? Or am I just getting old??
This is the traditional widows weekend in Wisconsin. Tomorrow is the opening day for deer hunting. Tonight is the night that the girls go out whether their husbands hunt or not.
Tonight I am staying home and cleaning my house.
Growing up I lived in isolation and most of the time I enjoyed that lifestyle. I grew up in a house filled with introverts.
Now I am surrounded by a family of extroverts. There are always people coming and going. My kids constantly ask if friends can come over for the weekend. It is busy, bustling, and loud.
Is it wrong to want silence??
The last couple of times out with friends, I was completely bored. I had to yell over the crappy music of an untalented band. People ran into me and spilled their drinks on me. I have a hard time dancing and having fun if the music sucks. I get hit on, grabbed, and groped by guys that I would have no interest in dating even if I was single.
Even the best of friends sober are annoying when they are drunk and the non-drinkers are a drag to hang out with.
Yesterday I ran into an old friend at the grocery store. I don’t know if she recognized me. I pretended that I didn’t know her. I was in a hurry and didn’t want to waste time talking about superficial things. I hate small talk.
If you are going to be my friend, you will be there in the good times and the bad times.
But frankly, I will probably push you away in the bad times because I don’t like to talk to anyone about my life. I am a very private person although you wouldn’t know it here. It seems safer talking to you folks, all complete strangers, that I have no chance of running into in real life.
Then during the good times, I will be upset that you weren’t there for me in the bad times even though I probably pushed you away.
It’s not that I have social anxiety or poor social skills. Sometimes I just want to be alone. Maybe I am not a good friend.