November happenings

It’s hard to believe November is half over already. Soon we’ll be entering the holiday season and just like that another year will slip away.

Change seems to be the only thing that is consistent in my life.

Angel and Dan just bought a camper. Soon Dan’s job will be taking him to the East coast for half a year. Angel will be joining him and working remotely out of the camper. It’s going to be very strange without them living 20 minutes away. I’m going to miss them so much, but what a grand adventure.

Alex joined another band, a bigger name band that just released an album, and is possibly touring the West coast next summer. We went to see his band and for the first time we had to pay to watch him perform. The venue was crowded. It’s exciting to see where this new adventure might take him as well.

Arabella’s medication change is working out well for her. She is less like a zombie and more like the person we knew before. She is putting herself out there more and just recently started dating someone new. We met her new boyfriend already and so far so good.

My mom’s memory issues are getting worse and I was finally able to get her set up for a neuropsych eval for the end of February. I have been making a lot of phone calls lately regarding my mom and I’m hoping she can stumble along until then. I’m hoping to talk to my brothers over the holidays and come up with a plan. I don’t want to get stuck managing the care for both of my parents and disabled brother by myself.

Sometimes when life is hard, you just need to have a good laugh about it. One of my bucket list items is to do stand up comedy. I’ve been up on the stage for open mic several times now and it’s been so much fun. You’re never too old to try something new. I foresee a lot of adventures in the upcoming year!

Old friends

I’m happy to say within the last week I was able to visit with all my old friends. All three of them (Vince, Harv, and Kate) are in their 90’s. I have been worried about them as of late. The last time Paul and I tried to call them, they didn’t answer, and they didn’t call back. At times, I stalked their accounts and googled their names just to check they weren’t in the obituaries.

Last week I came home to find Vince at my house talking to Paul and Arabella. I haven’t seen or heard from him in over 6 months. I saw Harv and Kate at a banquet over the weekend. I can’t remember the last time I saw them either. Kate had hip surgery a few months back and they ended up moving into a nursing home. Harv views Paul as the son he never had, and Paul would’ve been happy to have Harv as his dad. I think Paul and I both would’ve been proud to call them our parents. You can choose your friends but not your family. But what happens if you and your parents are mismatched? Sometimes the right people, your tribe, end up finding you.

Our friends in their 90’s are adventurous and fun loving people. Being in their 90’s, although it has slowed them down, hasn’t stopped them from living life to the fullest. They have a harder time hearing, seeing, and getting around. But nothing stops them. I wonder what they were like when they were younger. If I live another 40 years, I aspire to be like them.