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Blizzard, baby, and a mystery tour

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There has been so much to share since I last wrote. I don’t know where to start.

This will be an exciting week for sure. In five days, Paul, Angel, Dan, and I will be flying out on our ‘mystery trip’. Dan and Angel have no idea where we will be going. The trip is a gift for Angel’s college graduation back in May of 2020. I wanted to make sure we went on the trip before Angel has children or get her another gift. We didn’t know how close we would be as we found out after the trip was planned that she is pregnant. Today Angel is making the long trek back home from Memphis. Her best friend flew in yesterday to drive back with her. Dan will be flying home in a couple days.

Last week, Dan and Angel’s missing kitten came back home after being gone for 10 days. We had almost given up hope, especially since the cat escaped from their camper at a camp site they would be leaving soon. We are so excited their baby cat came back. But she used up a couple lives for sure with that cat ass trophy.

I finally called in for work the first time this week as I had a really nasty chest cold I probably got from work. I missed two days. I still don’t feel 100%, but I got sick before the trip not during it. Work is still up to its shenanigans, trying to screw the employees over. But I like the job and the people I work with so I will try to tolerate it for now. Things would be a lot better if we had a capable supervisor.

Late tonight pretty much the whole state of Wisconsin is expecting blizzard conditions in the likes we haven’t seen for 8 years. The bulk of the storm will arrive Sunday afternoon with very strong winds and several feet of snow. The weather forecaster said it will likely be one of the top 5 snowstorms ever recorded. And I have to work a 12 hour shift tomorrow. Since I have to leave at 6 AM, I might be okay. I am not afraid of driving in a blizzard. I am more afraid of going in the ditch as there will be a tow ban. It’s exciting, we’ll see what happens. Then if I make it to work in the ER, that will also be exciting as I am sure only real emergencies will be coming in.

Then, if I make it in to work, after work I am going to spend the night at Angel’s house. She lives a lot closer to my job than I do. We are going to have a slumber party. Then Monday, I am going to go with Angel to her anatomical scan appointment for her pregnancy. AND I will find out the gender of the baby!! There are so many things they do now when you are pregnant. I only had one ultrasound total out of my entire 3 pregnancies. I think Angel already had 3. It will be so exciting too!! I think the baby will be a girl. I originally thought boy. My head says boy and my heart says girl. Angel is my first baby and she was due on my birthday. Now Angel is having her first baby due on her birthday. So, girl?? I am going to put a couple streaks of blue and pink in my hair.

Whatever happens, this week will be very interesting and exciting!!

March in like a lamb

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It’s hard to believe it’s March already. So far March is coming in like a lamb. The sun is shining brightly and the snow is starting to melt. A small reprieve from the wicked winter weather leading us to hope for spring. Although the spring birds haven’t made an appearance yet.

Life is starting to look up a little in some regards. Work is going better. Since our supervisor has been awful, several of my co-workers and I started communicating with her supervisor. I asked her what her plan was to retain employees since I was planning on leaving. She was willing to work with us and came up with a good plan which I think is fair. I will actually have to work less weekends.

Over the weekend, my husband picked up his new vehicle. We went on a date night and went out last night to watch our son play in his band. Maybe I just needed to get away from the every day stressors to feel a little better. I am looking forward to our vacation in a couple weeks and taking some time off work. Angel is almost half way through her pregnancy already. Last night I had a dream they were having a baby boy but it was actually a girl. I will be finding out the gender soon which is exciting. Very soon, Dan and Angel will be back home for good. They might be interested in buying my parents house. Everything is slowly coming together. Next weekend we will be renting a dumpster and starting to really get rid of a lot of junk. There is finally an end in sight. On a sad note though, Angel and Dan’s kitten snuck out of their camper and ran away a couple days ago. She hasn’t come back, but hopefully she will.

Alex is doing alright and so is Arabella for the most part. She has been more moody than usual, but we’ll see. Her boyfriend just lost his job so I’m not sure how that whole situation will pan out. My parents are declining more every time I visit them. My mom hasn’t been talking a lot and my dad has been talking too much. Last time I visited, he was his nasty and mean self. They were preparing for the passing of another resident in their facility.

March has come in like a lamb. I sure hope it doesn’t go out as a lion.

End of February update

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Not a lot has changed since the last update. My parents are still with us. I still have a huge pile of boxes in my office to go through from their house. And when I get through those, I will bring in more.

Nothing has changed with my job. If anything, things have gotten worse. The work environment is toxic. I don’t want to stay. However, being the diligent employee that I am, I earned a month of vacation days that I will lose if I leave. I just had my annual review where my supervisor said I’m doing an excellent job. I double my collection goal every month. My job accuracy is 100%. I have never called in. I am the top employee. But they have implemented the on call policy. I will be on call Mother’s Day weekend, the weekend I am hosting my daughter’s baby shower. And if my mom is still alive, I am planning on spending time with her not being at work. When I expressed my concerns to my supervisor she had the attitude of too bad. Yes, it is too bad for her because I am not going to stay. Gone are the days when I go above and beyond. I will not be going in early, staying late, or taking on open shifts. I will be gone.

Just to give you an idea of how things are at work… My supervisor accused my co-worker of stealing money in public in front of other staff and patients. Only to find out later that the supervisor misplaced the money. No apology was granted or concern for the employee who was publicly humiliated. It makes my blood boil to see how she mistreats not only me but the other employees. My husband wants me to leave right away and find a better job. But I want to hang in there a couple more months to use up the PTO I earned. Plus I already created his summer seasonal work schedule around my schedule when I am off. I haven’t taken any time off since I started my job and I don’t want to build that again starting a new job.

The engine went out on my husband’s truck. So now we have to replace a vehicle we thought had many more years and miles left on it. We weren’t expecting to have to find a new vehicle so that adds to the pressure of my husband wanting me to find a better paying job. One thing I can say is that I expressed my thoughts to my supervisor and stood up for myself which I feel very good about. But once again I am plunging into the land of uncertainty which drives me crazy.

Just one more month until we leave for our vacation. I am really looking forward to that and using up some of my PTO days.

End of January update

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Hello! January just seemed to breeze by in the worst way. It’s been a harsh winter, a lot of snow and weeks of subzero wind chills. The feeling of unsatisfying coldness. The rough harsh winds that sting and burn.

It’s been a rough month all around. Nothing has changed on the home front. My mom is still on hospice and every time I visit I feel a part of her is shriveling away. My parents taking long winter naps under the cover of warm blankets, not sure if the chill in their bones is justifiable or not.

I am trying to get back to the gym again. It’s been a challenge with juggling all the responsibilities. It’s a challenge to do anything for myself, but I must try even if it is going to the gym. At the moment, I feel a certain melancholy. I’m thinking of quitting my job. Don’t get me wrong, I love working with suffering. It’s where I feel at home amongst the chaos. When you learn to embrace suffering, and not fear it, it is a magical place. Where else could I hold the hand of a stranger as her son is in the other room dying? I have the opportunity to be a comfort and that is very rewarding.

My workplace issued a new responsibility. Starting in the beginning of March, everyone is going to have to be on call one weekend every other month. It will be mandatory. They will pay $2 an hour to be on call and if someone calls in you are responsible for finding a replacement out of 4 other people, or that replacement is you. You have an hour to show up to work. I already work every other weekend. For me, that will mean I will work two weekends one month and then three weekends the following month. Working every other weekend already cuts into my life a lot. I usually try to cram everything in to the weekends I don’t work and am not willing to give up another weekend. Maybe if I don’t have anything going on, but as of now my open weekends are booked through the summer. I even helped my husband to schedule his work schedule around my schedule.

The new policy is in effect because there are multiple people who are always calling in. I’ve worked there for almost a year and haven’t called in once. I feel like the responsible people are the ones being hurt by this. It should be the supervisor’s job, but she really doesn’t want to work or do much of anything. I don’t want to leave, but if I have to I will. We just found out about this earlier this week and I am feeling stressed out about it. We’ll see what happens I guess.

Fall update

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It’s hard to believe we are into October already. We have been enjoying unseasonably warm temps up until today so it was easy to deceive myself otherwise.

I have been at my job for half a year already. Three more employees started working after I was hired so I guess I am not really the new person anymore. My old perfectionistic workaholic ways are catching up to me. I haven’t called in or taken a day off yet, instead I’ve been picking up extra hours and working overtime. I’ve already climbed to a position of respect amongst my co-workers. The management still sucks though, but for now I’m staying. I really like the chaos of working in an ER setting.

Arabella had her day in court and her felony charges have been dismissed. She is off probation and head over heels in love with her new boyfriend. It seems the feeling is mutual. I have a feeling she will be moving out in the next couple months.

Angel will be heading out of state this weekend and won’t be home until the holiday season. While she was back home, her husband rescued a stray kitten hanging around their camper and now they have two cats. I finally set up the graduation trip with my daughter. Back in 2020 when Angel graduated from college, we told her instead of a gift or money, we would like to make memories and take a trip with her. Well, I guess I don’t have to tell you how that turned out back in 2020. Finally I planned a trip for next March with my husband, and Angel and her husband. The most exciting thing is that it is a mystery trip. Angel gave me ideas and I am planning a big surprise.

On a sour note, Alex and his girlfriend broke up. She was seeing other guys behind his back. One night when Alex was playing at a gig out of town, Arabella and his girlfriend went out. Once again, Alex’s girlfriend got really drunk and this time hooked up with a random stranger at the bar. She told Arabella not to tell her brother about it or about her still seeing other people. She told Arabella if she did, she wasn’t going to be her friend anymore and would never see her again. The next evening Alex’s girlfriend was hanging out with him at our house when Arabella came home from work and told her brother everything. Alex took the break up really hard and is really struggling right now. Thankfully instead of closing himself off, he has been open and talking to us.

Paul is just finishing up his summer seasonal job and is toying around with the thought of working a winter seasonal job. Today I spent my day off washing windows and getting everything ready for winter. Soon will be the great purge of getting rid of the old and bringing in the new. Soon we will be going through my parents house and starting to empty it out. It feels good to empty myself of the garbage in my life.

17 thoughts

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This summer has been very busy and unfortunately I haven’t been able to set aside as much time as I would’ve liked for writing. Here is a summary of what has been happening which may or may not lead to future posts about the events.

  1. My mom’s POA was activated after a diagnosis of frontotemporal dementia.
  2. I set up a tour for my parents of an assisted living facility. They will be moving in this weekend.
  3. My brothers and I will be meeting over the weekend to make some hard decisions about what to do with my parents properties, vehicles, belongings, etc… As my parents are hoarders, this could take more than a year to straighten this mess out.
  4. I am still dealing with guardianship issues with my brother Matt in terms of his finances and health. My mom has been very angry with me that I am allowing him to have a diet with no restrictions. There will probably be more about this in a later post.
  5. Arabella broke up with her boyfriend. It was more of a mutual breakup and they left on good terms.
  6. Arabella has less than a month of probation left.
  7. Angel and Dan moved their camper from North Carolina to Indiana. They are doing great, but it’s been an adjustment this year not seeing them often.
  8. Paul had genetic testing done for cancer. On the test, 76 out of 77 screenings came back as normal. The other was neither negative or positive as they don’t have enough info to be certain if it’s a problem area or not.
  9. Our dog jumped the fence and was missing for 24 hours. We looked for him everywhere. We thought he was a goner until the following day when I came into the house to find him laying on the couch like he never left.
  10. The dog ran away right before I had to leave for work. That day I went in late. I left a message for my supervisor who didn’t bother to ask if we found our dog. I think that was the point where I started to despise my supervisor. The company I work for and the management really suck as I’ve seen them screw over the employees. This left me in a hard spot. I really like my job, the people I work with, and the patients. But is that enough for me to stay with a company I have no respect for because they don’t take care of their employees.
  11. Talking about employees, a previous problem employee of ours when we ran our company was convicted of felonies which landed her in prison.
  12. For the first time, I was called to go in for jury duty and was selected to be one of the jurors for a felony case involving the se#ual assault of a child.
  13. I decided to have three rings resized that were a gift from my mom when I was in my 20’s. It means a lot more to me now that my mom is ‘gone’.
  14. My son moved back into the house. He is doing really well as a musician, having a full-time job, and starting a business on the side. But in other ways he is not doing well. Like his dad, he struggles a lot with his drinking. At least at this point he is acknowledging it’s an issue he needs to work on.
  15. I really think that now is a good place to end my memoir. It’s been six years since I started it. I even finished it at one point, but life kept happening.
  16. The bar I made my stand up comedy debut in shut down. There are other venues I can try out though.
  17. There are so many things I probably forgot about…

The beginning of July

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It’s been a wild ride since the last time I wrote.

I thoroughly enjoyed the holiday weekend. On Friday we enjoyed listening to a local favorite band and enjoyed the fireworks on a perfect July evening. On Saturday afternoon, my son’s band played and afterwards we invited the band over for a pool party. Today has been my first whole day I’ve spent at home for weeks and I’m enjoying getting stuff done around the house.

Work has been hectic. Last week we got a new supervisor that no one likes. She is around half my age with no education or supervisor experience. I am trying to have a good attitude about it. She pretty much just stops in and yells at everyone then leaves us alone. I’ve heard she has no family, significant other, or life outside of being ‘bossy’. I am comforted that most of the other employees feel the way I do so we will stick together if things get out of hand. She offers assistance when we have been short staffed but never is around.

The day shift and the night shift typically have two employees working together. Unfortunately, it seems as if the irresponsible employee is always paired with an ultra responsible employee. Then when the irresponsible employee calls in, the responsible employee is left with all of their work. This happened last week with a lady who only works two days a week, she called in screwing the other employee over. They were both supposed to work the holiday. The irresponsible worker called in again and the responsible worker (who is a single parent of 4 kids) who never calls in called in afterwards. In that situation, the supervisor is supposed to work. I really think it was brilliant for the responsible worker to call in because maybe something will be done about it now. It’s getting out of hand and nothing is ever done about it. I am supposed to work with both employees tomorrow so we’ll see what happens.

Things have been crazy on the home front as well. My mom screwed up my brother Matt’s medications for the second time. I had to make the tough call to not allow my brother to go home overnight on the weekends anymore. This was very upsetting to my mom. But as my brother’s guardian I had to make the right call that him going home was a safety concern. I’m taking my mom to two doctor appointments this week, her primary doctor for a physical and to the neurologist. I wouldn’t be surprised if they activate the power of attorney for her this week. This week might change the course of our lives. We’ll see how it plays out.

On a good note, my brother Matt’s rep payee went through and now I don’t have to worry about paying my brother’s bills anymore. Large expenses have to be preapproved, so that should take care of my mom making huge unnecessary purchases she wants me to reimburse her for. Now I just need to take a couple hours to close out the old account. The switchover has been difficult, but once everything is set it will be great.

Dan should be spending the next couple of weeks at home after being out of town for work since December. They wanted to send him back out again right away, but he told them he wanted to stay around for a while. Now Angel will be out of town for work this week. They are busy people. It’s been good to see them more. Dan bought a new Tesla. The car drives itself. It’s unbelievable how much technology has changed over the last 100 years. I can see a future where drunk driving might be a thing of the past. Wisconsin is usually pretty drunk, especially on weekends. But on holiday weekends, people have been partying harder than usual.

That’s about it around here. Arabella’s friend should be getting out of rehab tomorrow so we’ll see what happens with that. Good thing she is getting out after the holiday weekend. I even saw some people who were embracing total sobriety drink. Not that I’m judging. I’ve gotten beyond that in my life as drinking is such a cultural thing here.

Next weekend will be my birthday weekend. I have a few fun ideas I am planning. Nothing big. But something to look forward to when life around me is nothing but chaos.

The beginning of June

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Just like that Memorial Day weekend has passed, and we are well on our way into unofficial summer. I received an incident report from the group home after Matt went back after the holiday weekend. Apparently my mom mixed up his medication. If it happens again, I may have to rethink allowing Matt to go to my parents house over the weekends.

My mom has been messing up her own medication and my dad’s too. My SIL Carla spent several days at my parents house taking my mom to doctor appointments and going through her medications and cupboards. My mom had 30 containers of expired peanut butter in her cupboard. This was shocking to Carla, but my brothers and I were not surprised since my mom has been hoarding food for a long time. Carla also found out that the pharmacy has been filling prescriptions that were discontinued by the doctor. Everything is a mess. But my parents have been adamant about not going into assisted living.

After a long stressful work week, I finally am starting to feel relaxed. We just got back from spending the night on the boat and visiting with friends. Thursday night after work, I did stand up comedy. I even talked Arabella’s boyfriend into giving it a try and he did an excellent job. Friday ended up being a hectic day unexpectedly. The day before the motor gave out on our washing machine mid-cycle. Friday morning I had to go shopping to buy a new one. Then I cleaned the house. Afterwards Angel came over for a visit so that was nice. Paul and I rarely have the opportunity to spend time with just her.

The upcoming week will be another busy one. Next weekend will be my first full weekend to work. I will miss being home with Paul on Father’s Day weekend. I also have a doctor appointment with Matt on my day off. I have a feeling it is going to be a long week. Alex’s tour with his band is over now and he will be making his way back home. Hopefully he will tell us all about it, but he probably will not.

Mayday

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This whole past week has been hectic, almost overwhelmingly so. Although yesterday I did make some time for fun checking out area rummage sales, eating where my daughter was waitressing, and watching my son’s band perform.

The week started with taking my mom for her PET scan appointment several hours away. Hopefully we will have some results soon. Then I worked Tuesday through Friday at the ER. So far I’ve seen a lot of interesting, horrible, and sad things. I wonder when I will become apathetic towards others like my co-workers seem to be. You almost have to be in that setting to keep the suffering from bothering you.

The rest of the week went by in a blur. This next week will probably too. I will be working the next four days and have Mother’s Day weekend off. Unfortunately the Mother’s Day comedy show has been cancelled. I have this feeling that most comedians are like artists and musicians who are so focused on the creative that they overlook the structure.

My plans for Mother’s Day weekend are volunteering, going out to eat while my daughter is waitressing, and watching my son play kind of like this past weekend. But it is what I enjoy doing. Angel and Dan will not be home for Mother’s Day weekend. They moved their camper from Georgia to Alabama to spend the next couple weeks at a new job site. But they will be home soon!

I am also planning on going flower shopping this next weekend for a couple planters for my patio and as a gift for my mom. Just this past week everything got green. The buds are almost turning into leaves on the trees and the grass is starting to grow.

The last full week of April

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It’s hard to believe April is almost over already. The whole month seemed to go by in a blur. This was my first full week working in the ER shadowing other employees. So far so good, I haven’t been squeamish at all.

Paul and I spent my day off walking around the NFL draft area. Too bad I am not a sports fan, otherwise I would go all out. Paul loves football but he doesn’t get all decked out. I mainly wanted to check it out to people watch. We wanted to get some food from the food trucks but the line was a mile long and there was nowhere to sit.

The last two days have been cold and windy. Yesterday was downright miserable with highs in the upper 40’s with strong winds and rain at times. My son’s band was set up outside to play last night and we were absolutely freezing. I could see my breath it was so cold. Today it will get up to 60 and it will be sunny, so it should be a better afternoon and evening being outside to watch my son play in both the bands he is in. I am not driving so that is even better.

Absolutely everyone is sick, but somehow I managed to keep my head above water. For once my body has not failed me being around sick people at home and work. Arabella and I are the only ones who managed to stay healthy. Ever since Arabella got her tonsils out, she has not been getting sick every time a cold wind blows.

Angel and Dan made their way down to Georgia with their camper where Dan will be working the next week. They made the trek on Easter day. Dan drove the camper down in his truck while Angel followed him in her car. On the way, Dan’s truck broke down. He is driving a truck from the 1980’s. Dan’s dad is a mechanic who taught Dan everything about fixing vehicles. Thankfully they were able to make it to the campsite they are staying at. My daughter and her husband live a very frugal life which I am very proud of. But sometimes I just have to roll my eyes and laugh a little as they don’t have to live that way. Some of it is because I know we are the same way.

A couple things happened this past week that are worth noting. One day was particularly rough as I had an 8 hour day of reading policies for work. Over my lunch, I had a dentist appointment. They took my blood pressure before the cleaning and it was high. I have been checking it at home and it is still higher than it should be. I’ve also started getting headaches every day. Nothing major, but I never had headaches before. I am keeping an eye on things but I don’t have time for another problem. I’m too busy worrying about other things, like my mom’s blood pressure. Her doctor wanted her to come in and get tested as it has been running high lately.

Next week my mom has two doctor appointments. One is for a PET scan over two hours away from her house. My sister-in-law was going to take her but she backed out. Since it is on my day off next week, my husband and I will be taking her. I am not looking to 5+ hours of driving. I am really hoping to get some answers with this test as her MRI results were inconclusive. I still haven’t found anyone to take her to her other appointment yet.

The other notable thing that happened was that I got asked to be one of the comedians for a comedy show on Mother’s Day weekend. Patrons will need to pay to get in and I will be getting paid to be in the show. Not too bad for someone who just started doing stand up comedy a couple of months ago. Who would’ve guessed?

This weekend I am looking forward to my son playing in his bands. The biggest challenge will be finding a work/life balance trying to take care of my mom’s health without neglecting my own. I do have some fun things planned during the week such as trivia night and stand up comedy. I will plan on making time to do another update next week.