Everyone else’s problems

Okay, so maybe things aren’t going to be all that light and fluffy yet. I feel really irritated today. Maybe it’s just PMS or something.

Some days I can just let it go and other days not so much.

Yesterday my husband and I made plans to take my daughter Angel and her best friend sailing for her birthday. Apparently the weather had other plans. It ended up going alright anyway. But that wasn’t the problem. When we got back around 5 PM, I noticed that Arabella was still home. I thought she was scheduled to work at 4:30 PM. So I went to talk to her and found out she was supposed to work at 10:30 AM. She slept through her whole shift. So she missed a whole day of work and the previous two days before that she was late.

My husband and I were livid. The last thing we want is for her to lose the job that she says she loves. We again told her how important it was to sleep at night and wake up in the morning. After I woke her up she called work. Thankfully she didn’t get fired but I’m not sure how long that will last. They are very nice to her too and said she could wear a short sleeved shirt despite her cutting scars. They told her they don’t discriminate. She was really upset with herself and when I asked her if she wanted to talk about it she told me to leave her alone. Just like old times. She is upset with me but can’t do it by herself.

It really stressed me out.

Also, when we got home yesterday, we had the invisible fence lady at our door. I was on the phone with a client a few days ago when I saw my dog cross the road and almost get hit by a car. Our dog is almost 14 years old and is practically deaf and blind. He has been going right through the fence and onto the road. We had to do something. So they came out and turned the collar all the way up. Thankfully he is responding to it now. But it is hard to see him go downhill so fast. Our cat is 15 and not in much better shape. I don’t think either one will make it through another winter and it is hard to see both our pets decline.

Then if all that wasn’t enough. My mom came back yesterday. She is all stressed out because her tooth cracked and she had to get a crown, my dad now has some sort of heart problem, and my brother Matt had a CT scan because of some benign tumors on several organs. She only slept an hour last night and was a bear to deal with today. She wanted me to drive her to her appointment today which I did. But she was annoyed by my music saying it was too loud (it wasn’t) and clangy and asked me to turn it off.

A huge, huge pet peeve of mine is complaining about my music when I’m driving. It’s not a big deal if someone asks me to turn it down so they can talk to me. That’s no problem. I usually keep the volume down when I have passengers anyway. But saying they don’t like it and asking me to turn it off when I’m doing them a favor is another thing entirely. I just had the radio on quietly. Yes it was rock music. I hate her music too but never ask her to turn it off.

It kind of reminds me when my kids were young after I got past the stage of having to listen to that dribble Barney crap, I would listen to music I liked. When they complained, I told them that when they drove they could listen to whatever they wanted to. That came back to bite me because they can listen to stuff off their phone. In my book, driver picks the music whether I like it or not. Sometimes my husband will be really nice when he drives and tells me to put on anything I want. It’s like heaven to me.

But anyway, here I am back to letting everyone else’s problems bug me. I don’t even want to go up north this weekend to be around family anymore since they all carry so much negative energy. I am looking forward to seeing my brothers Mark and Luke but my dad, Matt, and my mom aren’t very relaxing to be around.

When can I live my own life and let everyone else’s problems go? Seriously!!?!

5 thoughts on “Everyone else’s problems

      • I have found that i think i fixed to much of my kids lives as children that they are not full on successful at life. Maybe my expectations in life are my own and not their’s i mean they don’t do drugs that are negative to your life (that i know of) they aren’t mean people never in trouble but they lack ambition that i had at their age. I don’t get it. I know my middle child had a rough childhood in regards to having cancer and other health problems that have lead to mental health issues but he just can’t seem to keep a job and my oldest who skipped a grade doesn’t want college or trade school to get a job he’s passionate about. My youngest is son to be fifteen so who knows yet but i wonder where i went wrong raising them??? Recently though I’ve decided as far as my Middle son i can’t keep fixing his problems. He needs some critical thinking skills. Otherwise I’ve found everything is my fault. So he will fail or succeed without my support in regards to helping him find a job or going to college. I’ve decided i can’t because if something happened to me he’d be lost and i don’t want that. So i just fight the urge. I support him verbally but not physically if that makes sense. Sorry i wrote a book lol

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      • I understand what you’re saying. I feel the same way, but our kids are still young and finding their way. I have to tell myself a lot that someday I won’t be here to help them and that the world will go on somehow without me trying to fix everything. I try to stop interfering in their lives but sometimes I can’t stop myself. If you see a train wreck about to happen shouldn’t you say something??? I guess trying to fix things isn’t the worst fault in the world. We just care too much.

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